No matter how many friends tell you it is a good idea, DON’T make the first move!!!
I unfortunately read this blog I read regularly one day too late: Why Girls Don’t Make The First Move
Here is what happened to me:
I’ve been single for a while now. I hate being single. I hate dating. But I don’t PUSH it. I don’t RUSH it. I just let things happen. I am VERY passive when it comes to dating. Maybe to a fault. Most of the time I don’t even realize someone is flirting with me until it is too late. I just don’t function that way.
Until last week. Ohhhhh Tuesday. What a BEAUTIFUL day. It was sunny. Blue skies. I had my entire day planned out. I had an important errand to run that involved possibly running into my idol. And ending with a networking event. So I got dressed a little nicer than normal. Then I walked in the door at work. “We need you to do this. We need you do to that” Totally threw my entire day’s schedule off.
So I gathered my thoughts, figured out what I need to do, and made it happen.
I rolled up onto a job site. A job site I didn’t know til I got to work that I’d have to go to (looking cute, remember) and met a super cute guy. A friendly, cute, funny, appeared to be single guy. There was flirting. LOTS of flirting.
He and I were both scheduled to be back on the job site later that day. SCORE I thought, I will have a chance to flirt a little more. Maybe he’ll ask for my number. No dice. The second meeting was cancelled. So I swooned to my friends about how awesome he was. They/I convinced me to call his office, and leave my cell number with the receptionist.
Note to all: I AM NOT FORWARD. I DO NOT DO THESE KINDS OF THINGS. PERIOD.
So I call the receptionist. And I gave her my number to give to him. And I am as high as a kite. I don’t do these kinds of things! I don’t make the first move! I don’t!
Seven days later… he hasn’t called. So he either never got the message (I hope), wasn’t interested (he’s a good actor), or he’s married (and an asshole). Or he plays by the “rules” and won’t call til three days later, which is so 1995, I am not sure I can deal.
So much like my dating counterpart @Soon2BecCatLady, I, against my better judgement, made the first move, and crashed and burned…