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Reason #1 I Will Never Get Married: Men.

I am a pretty laid back person for the most part.  I date, passively.  I figure whatever happens, happens.

So imagine my amazement when I am on Facebook catching up on people’s lives this morning, and I see “Joe* is in a Relationship”.

Now, you might wonder why this is such an amazing feat.  It’s not really, except that just a few weeks ago he hit me up on Plenty of Fish.

Now, you might say, “but Veruca, he met someone!  Be happy for him!”

Except for a comment he wrote under all the congratulations that said “well, since we’ve been together a year, time to make it Facebook official!”


Exqueeze me? Baking Powder?

I am sorry but if you are in a relationship for a year, why are you on Plenty of Fish???

Which reminded me of an experience I had a year or so ago, when I found my friend Kaitlyn’s* boyfriend of a year, on OK Cupid!

So I ask you this: At what point do you ask your SO to take down their online profile?

Personally, if I am having sex with you, I am taking my online profile down.  Apparently I am in the minority?  Or is it a guy thing, keeping their toe in the water?  Regardless, this is the latest example of why I have absolutely no faith or trust in men. Every day I am becoming a little more a-ok with being alone forever.

*The names have been changed to protect the innocent, as well as the guilty.

The Anti-Social Network?

While perusing Twitter this afternoon at work (working hard, duh!) I ran across a tweet that I IMMEDIATELY was in agreeance with:

“Still wondering why Twitter is called a social networking site and not an anti social networking site”- @moarcaffeine

My first thought was YES! More often than not I find that when I am in the company of other people we all have our nose in our phones.  Usually Tweeting and/or Facebooking (rarely making emergency 911 phone calls like in the olden days). Gosh, how I miss the olden days…

Now, let me be perfectly clear, I do not do this on dates.  Nor do I do this while having a meal with my parents.  Or any other occasion where I am expected to be social for that matter.  You know, the face-to-face variety dinner party, wedding, what-have-you .  Phone is always in my pocket or purse in those situations. Always.

But then my second thought was WAIT!  I have met some of the coolest, smartest, most fun people on the planet through Twitter.  Some I have even harvested real genuine legitimate relationships with.

As a 30-something in a career running a family business with little to no contact with people of my age, I have found Twitter to be a way to stretch beyond my home-grown social circle.  I am LEARNING and DOING and REACTING in ways that I never could before.  It still blows me away that I can build real friendships on Twitter with people with similar interests.  It’s like what Match is to dating, Twitter is to befriending!

And I would love to kiss Jack Dorsey himself on the mouth as a thank you.